Lightning don’t strike / The same place twice / When you and I said goodbye / I felt the angels cry
Looking backwards gets an unfairly bad rep. In reality, you can learn from your crappy experiences and your cool experiences can make you feel warm and fuzzy. It’s only the opportunity cost aspect of “living in the past” that is really damaging.
Since I’m a greedy and selfish person, I look at those warm and fuzzy experiences and of course the first thing that comes to mind is how do I replicate them for the future?
More specifically, I look at my 13 months here and wonder if I had to do it over again, how do I manage to get taken off the bad MD’s projects, get on the good side of the most vocal MD, and position myself to be the special teams player on the best projects? Additionally, how do I get all the little perks like being able to come in late and get away with tricking out my work laptop?
This line of thought becomes even more pressing when you feel your cache slipping away a bit. After all, this is a what-have-you-done-for-me-lately world.
So after realizing that you want the good times to come back, you might feel that you only have two choices – you can stay under the same spot and wait for the lightening to strike you again or you can run around attempting to hit by the same lightening strike in a different spot. (Don’t worry, the first method isn’t as stupid as it sounds.)
(By the way, this is a large reason why lots of people stay in this industry – too afraid to lose the cache that you have built and all of a sudden, wake up to find yourself as a 30-year-old VP still checking comps and changing colors in ppt).
I guess it’s a big part of growing up to be able to accept the fact that lightening
don’t doesn’t strike the same spot twice and also be able to move on to not chasing the same lightening strike in another spot. And to be honest, despite realizing all this, I don’t think I’ve fully been able to do that.
When I sit around not doing much (fun times in the office), it’s easy to think back to when I was jamming on high-importance projects or when I was still climbing up the curve and learning things. Your mind plays tricks on you like that – blocking out the crappy and only reminding you of the warm and fuzzy.